Rapper Cardi B is pushing back on the fans and friends who are pressuring her to get an abortion.
The 25-year-old multimillionaire performer told the syndicated radio program “The Breakfast Club” last week that she “didn’t want to deal” with abortion regret.
“Why do I have to be in my mid-30s to have a baby? What am I doing wrong? I’m a grown woman,” said Cardi about the people criticizing her recent pregnancy.
This is Cardi’s first child with her fiancé, rapper Offset, to whom she was engaged last October. She was born and raised in the Bronx, in New York City.
She celebrated the release of her new album, “Invasion of Privacy,” with a performance on “Saturday Night Live” and, at the same time, surprised fans by revealing she is carrying a baby while performing her new song, “Be Careful.”
After confirming her pregnancy, she then co-hosted “The Tonight Show” along with Jimmy Fallon last Monday, embracing motherhood with jokes about breathing exercises and pregnancy.
Despite her happy news, some fans have expressed disappointment for her choice to have a child “at the height of her career.”
One Twitter user actually wrote, “I’m SO disappointed that Cardi B is pregnant. Her career is at such a defining point, she’s got the industry eating out the palm of her hand. I’m not saying women can’t do both, I just wish she delayed it a few years.”
I’m SO disappointed that Cardi B is pregnant. Her career is at such a defining point, she’s got the industry eating out the palm of her hand. I’m not saying women can’t do both I just wish she delayed it a few years.
— Lou Hennessy (@TRAPGODLOU) April 8, 2018
“Me forcing myself to be happy for Cardi B becoming pregnant, during the biggest turning point in her career,” another fan tweeted with a disappointed GIF.
Me forcing myself to be happy for Cardi B becoming pregnant, during the biggest turning point in her career. pic.twitter.com/pAI5rBWBLY
— Aquarius Zaddy (@quitfeenin) April 8, 2018
The rapper told the radio program that the criticism about her decision to reject abortion “disgusts” her.
“It really bothers me and it disgusts me because I see a lot of women online like, ‘Oh, I feel sorry for you.’ ‘Oh, your career is over.’ And it’s just like, why can’t I have both? Like, as a woman why can’t I have both? Why do I have to choose a career or a baby? Why can’t I have both?” she asked.
The engaged first-time mom disapproves of the secular pro-choice view of children as secondary to careers — and believes one can have a parallel track.
Parenthood has always been a struggle of priorities, but today’s feminism has successfully sold modern women on the idea that compared to a career, children are an unnecessary burden — hence Cardi B’s fans expressing exasperation about her having a child “at the turning point in her career.”
Let’s be clear: Cardi B is neither a role model nor a conservative activist. Her rapping is vulgar, and she holds several liberal views; but she does have moments of sensible life observations.
Most libertarians can agree with her Instagram post from a few weeks ago, in which she expressed her disdain for paying a ludicrous amount in taxes. Now her stance on abortion also challenges liberal orthodoxy. She treats motherhood not as a choice, but as her responsibility as “a grown woman.”
How many times has feminism preached that women can handle multiple roles in their lives? This makes Cardi’s argument that women can have both a career and a baby a devastating blow to the abortion business.
As one social media user put it, “women can’t win” under the rules of modern feminism.
“Cardi B waited until she was a multimillionaire. She waited until she was engaged to be married. She waited until she broke records in her career. All before she decided to become a mom. And even after all that, people still saying ‘She should’ve waited.’ Women can’t win.”
Cardi B waited until she was a multimillionaire. She waited until she was engaged to be married. She waited until she broke records in her career. All before she decided to become a mom. And even after all that, people still saying "she should've waited". Women can't win.
— Kira J (@IamKiraJ) April 8, 2018
Let’s stop pushing women to “defend” having a career and children at the same time. It’s disturbing that Cardi has to respond to critics about keeping her child. Kudos to her for making a statement that life matters.
Heather Hunter is a talk-radio show producer based in the Washington, D.C., area.