There’s nothing more satisfying than being with a partner who sees you and loves you for who you are. [That person] understands that your hurtful behavior is not because you are mean and unloving, but because you have been wounded in the past and the past still lives with you. As we better understand and accept our partner, we can learn to love ourselves ever more deeply.” — Jed Diamond, Ph. D., in MenAlive 

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