It’s a very human experience to think, “I’ll only be happy when ‘this’ happens.”

“This” could be anything from snagging a new job to getting married to moving into a new home — to going on a cruise to an exotic island.

While putting off happiness and looking ahead to fun times, great plans, and long-held desires may be common, that attitude may be keeping people from being happy right now.

As Emily Wilson, a YouTube vlogger based in southern California (she’s also a Catholic speaker and musician), says in a new video, “I fall into this thinking all too often, and I think that’s something that a lot of us as women struggle with. This kind of thinking, this sentence that plays over and over again in our heads, keeps us waiting instead of living.”

Related: The Words of Jesus: ‘They Are Spirit and They Are Life’

Check out Wilson’s inspirational words below:

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