Planned Parenthood has determined that, in addition to leading the pack on most abortions performed, they are also parenting experts. Now, they instruct parents to teach their young children that gender cannot be defined by one’s genes or genitalia.
One who embraces this teaching must then honestly grapple with the question: How do we define gender to young children? Is it taste in clothes, feelings, self-perception, or perhaps attraction to the opposite sex? The latter would not work, of course, because same sex attraction would be a misnomer if you weren’t sure of your gender identity in the first place.
What a horrifically tangled web we have weaved for our poor little kids. So let’s not jump into the madness. As thinking people, we must be able to articulate important concepts and ideas that follow logic if we want our kids to believe us when we speak.
But here’s the real harm that befalls children when we take such a nonsensical approach:
First, it makes no biological sense. What defines maleness and femaleness is exactly reproductive differences. Women can have babies — men cannot. Women need men to have babies because only the joining of the opposite gender pair can result in the life of a child. One might want to think that maleness has nothing to do with genitalia, but without them he cannot reproduce. Evolutionists argue that what makes men fundamentally male is the desire to procreate.
Second, thoughts and feelings cannot and should not trump biology. A man is defined as male by a Y chromosome. If a person has two X chromosomes, that person is biologically female. The person may choose to counter his gender by thoughts and feelings, but those do not change biology. Even young children know this. As a pediatrician, I am against sex changes in children because of gender-identity issues because: A) medicine can’t even prove gender reassignment helps people; and B) since the problem resides in the mind, treatment must begin in the mind.
Third, gender is very important to children. A four-year-old girl knows she’s a girl and a two-year-old boy knows he’s a boy. Sure, there are a minute handful of gender-confused children in the U.S., but these kids are extremely rare. When a child without gender identity issues sees another child, she recognizes males and femaleness in that child. She sees a long, braided pony tail on Sara and a cowboy hat on Paul. She accurately determines that Sara is a girl and Paul a boy.
If an adult then tells her that she made an inaccurate determination, she feels confused. Since she believes that adults are smarter, she determines that she — not the adult — is wrong.
She lacks the ability to make common-sense decisions, she concludes, because she thought Sara was a girl. Then she concludes: What else am I wrong about? Calling into question a fundamental ability to accurately perceive life around her, the young girl feels deeply disturbed. Are trees, trees — or could they really be airplanes? She isn’t even sure she has what it takes to decide.
Planned Parenthood knows nothing about the fundamentals of child psychology or parenting, so they need to stay away from what and how children learn. Truthfully, they don’t care about children — or they wouldn’t abort so many. What they care about is shifting the mindset of adults to embrace the rare, painful issue of gender confusion as normal. It is not.
True gender confusion is a terribly painful and serious problem, and it should never be taken so lightly. To teach that it is just another idea that most kids grapple with does a disservice to not only every child, but to those who really struggle with it.
Dr. Meg Meeker has practiced pediatrics and adolescent medicine for more than 30 years. She is the author of the new book, “Hero: Being the Strong Father Your Children Need” (Regnery Publishing, May 2017), as well as a number of digital parenting resources and online courses, including The 12 Principles of Raising Great Kids.