When asked by my family what I wanted for Mother’s Day, my millennial son jumped into the conversation to explain a new trend among his circles here in Arizona and the greater Southwest.

Typically, traditional holidays like Mother’s Day are followed to the letter by conventional celebrations like dining out and giving gifts. But a new trend is emerging among millennial moms, single or married, with toddlers, primary school kids and even young teens.

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Instead of the usual celebration in their circles, they are opting to get away from it all. Or as my son put it, “Moms want a stop-the-world-I-want-to-get-away day, their way.”

All one needs is a babysitter to watch the children. This can be a spouse or a reliable older sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, cousin, colleague, co-worker, or neighbor, along with others in your circles. Any and all of whom, for whatever reason are free on Mother’s Day.

Whether it’s what to cut from a family budget to being the bearer of bad news at work for a favorite coworker who has been pink-slipped, these decisions are hard. 

The three most popular avenues of choice for these trending moms today include:

1.) Staying home alone. Think of it: You give, and give, and give to maintain a comfortable, safe, enriching home — and never get a chance to really enjoy it by yourself. Sometimes it’s just too much and your need may be peace and quiet to enjoy that new bestselling book to be savored with your treat of choice, such as a pot of rich Colombian coffee and homemade, buttered scones.

Or how about that movie no one else wanted to watch because it’s a tear jerker, and yes … you will be weepy throughout. Of course, with tech today, you can do both while taking a long relaxing (and uninterrupted) soak in the tub, with lovely scented soap amid bubbles galore. You’ll feel like a kid again!

2.) Getting out of the house. Young moms today often complain that there is never enough time to get that run, walk, or workout into their schedule every day. But this is your day, so go for it. Instead of going your usual route or doing the same workout routine — try something new.

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For example, explore new areas around your town or city that offer the loveliest views of nature in America’s glorious full bloom of spring. Because you have the entire day, it won’t matter if the drive takes time. You didn’t have that luxury before, but you have it now.

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For some, this could mean an hour’s drive or more to the beach to run with ocean waves cheering you onto a distance never before attained. For others who prefer leisurely walks in the forest, desert, or pleasant city spots of open-air cafés, specialty shops, and mom-and-pop bookstores, you’ll find it worth your while to map it out and take your time.

3.) Taking a retreat with God. This is my personal favorite. Whatever your Christian faith, you are pulled every which way and often compelled to make painful decisions in a world of troubles nipping at your heels. Whether it’s what to cut from a family budget to being the bearer of bad news at work for a favorite coworker who has been pink-slipped, these decisions are hard. 

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As a Roman Catholic, I’ve witnessed my circle of Sisters in The Franciscan Order who return from their yearly retreats both renewed and refreshed from head to toe. Thank goodness, whether laity or religious, we have our hotline to God through prayer and meditation. Even for a single day, this can become a wellspring for replenishing the areas of drought that St. Teresa of Avila addressed in her classic book, “Interior Castle,” about the dynamics of the spiritual world within of body, heart, mind and especially soul.

After all, there is nothing as All-American Girl, so to speak, as taking the independent path to fulfilling your own desires on this most special day, dedicated to the hardest job on earth — motherhood!

The author, a retired attorney, is a published poet, writer, and columnist based in Arizona.