In today’s world, we use the word “love” in a plethora of contexts — in everything from family members to food.

Jeff and Alyssa Bethke, Christian speakers and YouTube stars, discuss in a recent video what love truly means today.

Originally from Tacoma, Washington, Jeff Bethke has a deep relationship with his faith that he shares in his videos.

“In a marriage or dating relationship, I’ve realized the mentality of needing to win is poison. It can and will destroy any relationship. That’s why Alyssa and I have both committed to throwing the ‘I need to win’ attitude in the trash,” he says on his website.

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But how do the faithful replace that competitiveness with love? “We are going to talk today about what exactly is love, how do we define it, and what is love not,” Alyssa Bethke says at the start of the video.

Check out this young couple’s words of inspiration:

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